I remember searching through adoption sites and reading about couples who wanted to grow their family. I also wanted to really think about my options I had. I wish I had told my parents sooner so I could've had their love and support that much sooner but it was hard. During January and part of February were dark times for me. I waited until February to do that I think. And to be honest, I didn't do that right away. Getting back to being 18 and pregnant: after Jared and I talked about our options it was time to tell my parents. Peytyn is truly a blessing and I love her so much. He gave me one of my two blessings I've had so far in this life and I'm so grateful for that. Jared signed a form so Peytyn could be sealed to us on our wedding day! He also was helpful when it came for Konnor to adopt Peytyn this last July. And he was great when it came down to when I got married to Konnor. I don't have to share her with him or his family. I'm grateful that he has caused no drama or any grief when it comes to Peytyn. And before you get upset about that on my behalf (thank you) it's totally okay.
With Peytyn at all - has never met her or provided for her financially. And for those who are curious, Jared and I (as far as I know) are on good terms. He knew he wasn't ready to have a child and I totally don't blame him. When Jared and I got together to talk he felt the best option for us was open adoption. We waited until we both got back to Corvallis to talk about things in person (this was one of the years with a terrible snow storm - so bad the malls were closed the week of Christmas - seeing each other during break was impossible).Īt the Portland LDS Temple on our sealing day. When I got confirmation I was pregnant I remember letting Jared know even though at this point our relationship had ended. Again, something I had not planned on doing but hey, it happens. It was a brief relationship and to be honest I felt that things ended because we moved too quickly physically. I met Peytyn's biological father "Jared" (not using his real name for privacy reasons) through a friend right before school started. I was 18 and had just started school at Oregon State University. I found out I was pregnant with Peytyn on December 15th 2008. We were not prepared and even after taking Plan B within 12 hours of having unprotected sex I still knew I was pregnant. Was I acting responsibly when I had sex? NOPE. I understand the feelings that a woman can feel when she learns she's pregnant and had no intentions for that to happen. However, I chose to keep my daughter and I have never regretted that decision. I also seriously considered adoption of a few forms. I do actually, have one more thought about abortion specifically. I would just ask that you respect my opinion and it's either going to strengthen yours or not. I'm here to share these experiences to give another point of view and you do what you want with it. But from my personal experiences I have determined my stance on abortion and I'm not here to argue or to change anyone's mind. Now, the things I'm about to share are extremely personal and honestly, very little people know about some of these things. But I really want to focus on the #ShoutYourBlessing aspect of this post. I do feel that it's appropriate to share some of my thoughts on it and I have even more to share.
I am not here to say why I'm against abortion. I would love to encourage abstinence for more reasons than preventing an unwanted pregnancy - especially since there are many other things you can do to feel intimate with your partner and to get satisfaction - but I know that abstinence is not a reality. Yes, birth control can fail but I also don't feel that abortion should be considered as a form of birth control.
With that said, most women can also choose to prevent pregnancies. Yes, it is their body and they can choose what they want to do with it. I know that there are women out there that choose abortion for themselves for a variety of reasons. I understand we all go through different things in life and these experiences shape us to be who we are today. I have a lot of thoughts about this.įirst, I respect others that have different opinions than my own - especially if they have done research or have these opinions based on their own life experiences. Earlier today I opened up Facebook to see a friend had shared a link to #shoutyourabortion.
0 kommentar(er)
